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Dear Charlie:

Can you help me?  I’ve been hanging out with my girlfriend for a couple of months now and the problem is she is so insecure.  I like her a lot and I think that she is great, but she just never seems to believe me. She doesn’t trust me and I feel like that is bringing us further apart rather than closer together.  How do I get her to feel better about herself?

~”In-secure” Relationship

Dear “In-secure” Relationship,

Reassure her, but try to avoid getting angry at her.  She might be misinterpreting your anger as attention and you should focus on positive attention instead. Be patient with her and don’t expect her to change over night. Do nice things for her and things to make her feel less insecure but don’t cater to her insecurities.  In other words, don’t change your plans because she’s feeling needy.  This is validating her insecurity.


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